The ROI (Role-Oriented Integrated) model treats stuck patterns as role problems, not willpower problems. You map the roles you play across four dimensions—social, emotional, family, and somatic—then design upgrades and rehearse them until your body knows what to do under stress. The result is coordinated change that shows up in real life and lasts.

Saying “no” doesn’t end connection—it protects it. This piece reframes codependency/people-pleasing, explains why “yes” can become a survival reflex, and offers micro-practices (tiny truth script, two-beat boundary, body brake) to balance caring for others with caring for yourself. Through the ROI role model, you’ll rehearse Boundary-Setter, Chooser, and Receiver so your “yes” has energy, respect, and real closeness.

PTSD isn’t weakness—it’s your body’s way of staying on guard long after danger has passed. This article explains why trauma gets “stuck,” how it shows up in everyday life, and offers simple grounding practices and role-based tools to help you feel safe, connected, and present again.